As some of you have already picked up on, johndoebodybuilding.com isn't just about muscles, it's about life. If you're anything like me, then muscles are not just your main focus of life. They are a foundation that keeps you grounded and something to build off of into other areas of life.
I often think about where I want to be in the next 20 years. My ideal life is not the same as other people's. I'd like to have a nice cottage home or condo someday, with a lot of windows and a large kitchen. I see myself waking up early every morning to take the dog for a walk, hit the gym, go fishing, maybe lay out on a beach somewhere, smoke a joint that night and do it all over again the next day.
I'd like to have some sort of part time job a few days a week to still have a sense of purpose and accomplishment. Maybe I'll get into real estate or have my own gym. My dream is not that of some corporate slave or some large business owner with a massive headache 24/7. I do not care about a new Mercedes, a yacht, or a 5,000 sq ft home. It's just not me, I don't value those things like some people do. My ideal vehicle is a basic Chevy truck with roll up windows and a rubber mat floor to clean easily. I care nothing about keeping up with the Joneses, and there is a strong part of me that hates modern day technology, just short of a Middle Eastern motherfucker!
I like bodybuilding, I like eating healthy, and I like very little stress in my life. Sometimes when we acquire too much it only brings more stress. Some people look at handling stress like this as an accomplishment. I do not. Stress like that is nothing more than bullshit that leads me astray from the path I want to take in my life. I've owned businesses before. One was extremely profitable, but I was nothing but a miserable SOB. Many of the people I've trained before have all had major stress issues that have prevented them from getting healthy and in shape. They want to do it but they have so much shit going on in life they just can't, and many of them have positioned themselves in life to a point it'd be extremely hard to get out of.
Take for example this one guy I know. The guy is going through a divorce because his wife cheated on him. He has to make monthly payments until he pays off over 100 grand in debt that was his share during the marriage. He looks like he's aged 20 years and went from a decent muscular build to that of a crackhead who lives off Spam and ramen noodles. Easy solution would be to file bankruptcy, start eating right and getting his ass back in the gym, but you can't tell him that. Who in the fuck gives a shit about credit when you're paying that sort of debt on a monthly basis? God forbid he doesn't get out of his shit and just stay in a nice apartment for awhile until he can buy something again?
Do you know why he's like this? Because he listens to every other miserable dumb fuck with good advice! If we cannot finance a car or a home then we are losers right? I mean God forbid this guy drives something used and affordable in cash, or has to rent a place until he can get things back in order. Is it really worth tagging 10 years off your fucking life, and stressing yourself to death over some stupid bitch you would have never had if you didn't marry some whore? I think not!
Get rid of anything holding you down
Look, it's human nature to always want more, and nothing comes without some struggle. But if you have anything holding you down in life, get rid of it! Instead of worrying about what you can get, worry about what you can get rid of to start living your damn life the way you want.
Most men stupidly live a certain way or buy things because of women. In their minds, the more successful they can appear, the better their odds of attaining women are. Fuck all that, start living for you! If some gold digging bitch doesn't want you because you don't drive a new Lexus, she won't want you for good anyways. If you start getting muscles then you're nothing but some roid freak who doesn't have anything going other than the gym right? Yeah well, fuck all that, I'm not living my life with people like that trying to influence me.
I have a wife who supports me, if I'm back at the gym late one evening for cardio, she doesn't give me any shit about it. If I tell her that I want to train for a competition, she supports me. I'm sure a lot of people look at me like the guy with nothing else going on in life, but I'm also sure a lot of “successful people” would give their left nut to throw it all away and start living like I do.
I'm not saying “I made it” or anything, but I have a pretty good life. I do what I want for the most part, and I have few regrets. I may not have been made to be some doctor or stock broker, and maybe I'll always be just John Doe. But John Doe has never lost himself, I do all of the same shit I was doing as a teenager. I lift, I ride my mountain bike, I can still hop on a skateboard and ride around.
If being cool means trying to fit in with this heard of fucking sheep I see everyday, call me square!
Your life is ticking away, start living it!
11 thoughts on “Do What Makes You Happy”
Fuckin’-A right. Buying useless shit to impress others on Facebook or some other social media bullshit is for the birds. It seems like hardly anyone lives their lives for themselves anymore, it’s all just for perception and to create an image for other people. I have just one question, if you go on Facebook and look around, u’d think everyone one on there has these great, happy lives. If that’s the case, then why is the divorce rate up near 60 percent in this country, with prob more than that wanting 2 be but can’t afford it? Exactly. Something just doesn’t jive w that scenario.
What if college doesn’t make you happy?
I had very little interest in school myself. I ended up getting out in the real world and working full time. I later went back a couple more semesters and college was a breeze, nothing but 4.0 across the board, it wasn’t college that was hard to me, I jut hadn’t experienced enough in life to realize what was really tough and what wasn’t. Alt of it has to do with age and maturity levels. My advice is to look at alternatives such as law enforcement, fire, coast guard, army, etc. These jobs give you a chance to get out there and make a living, and provide you with training to move up the ladder. They often pay for continued education and there is no better option than free school where your simply advancing your career but already have a path in life paved. I’d strongly consider something like this
You make a lot if sense here . I speak for myself but This is what I’ve acquired from your reading is It is better to stop trying to gain so many things to make one happy ie cars , status wealth and start to get rid of the things that aren’t making you happy ie friends that hold us back, and bad habits . This is a very great post packed with in red ably great information . The only thing I want at this point in my life is to start a business and never work for any one again this is important to me for my happiness .
Good idea, pick a business you can handle and keep a low overhead as long as you can. I had a business that was grossing 8k a week and I stupidly made the mistake of expanding too quick figuring everything was a tax write off anyways. When my main outlet for contract work cut their subs loose I was fucked. I should have stayed smaller and kept a lower overhead until I was in business longer. Luckily I was able to sell it in time before bankruptcy and a bunch of other shit
This is by far one of the best posts John Doe. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences. Everyone has a different definition of happy we have to make that happen. Very motivational post as well. Just curious what’d you study in college? And how many competitions have you been in?
I started at a 2 yr school doing liberal arts like everyone else does. I was interested in exercise science but I was slack in school and studying. I grew up in a small rust belt town with little opportunity, I just wanted to get out. I packed my car with some clothes and left with 500$ back in 2001. I worked some labor jobs for about 5 years after. I rented the movie “Ladder 49” one night, then I knew what I really wanted to do in life. I have no regrets
Btw, I’ve done 9 shows over the course of the past 12 yrs or so
That’s a really inspiring story. thanks for sharing. I think you should do more posts like this. By the way do you have any products or books coming up for the futile?
I’m in the process of writing a book now bro, it’s going to be good
killer, can’t wait for that!